I just finished watching the season finale of Amazing Race with the Littles. Yeah, we are a tad behind, but in my defense it was 2 hours long and Friday night is the only night where I let the littlest Little stay up that late.
We were so psyched that Bates and Anthony won, but then the Roller Derby moms spoke. Ugh!
“We are so much more than moms.” ”We got our lives back.”
I had to pause the DVR at the first quote to tell the littles that being a mom is a great and admirable job.
I paused again at the next quote, 3 secs later, to tell them they will encounter this attitude throughout their lifetimes.
One minute women are screaming to have children and the next they are lamenting the fact that children change their lives.
Really, girlfriends? Aren’t there enough books out there in this day in age telling you that tidbit? How did you miss the news??
And why the heck is being “just a mom” such a bad choice? Don’t we want “the right to choose?”
Well, I choose this path so I would appreciate it if you would stop demeaning my choice. I don’t demean your choice.
And before you get your pretty panties in an uproar, let me remind you that I was the mom with a career for quite a few years. I get it. I wanted to set the world on fire too. Every hill was a battle to win or die on. I hear you roar. I really do.
Here’s the thing though, I have CHOSEN a different path…one that works for my family. I have CHOSEN to have more children and I feel I owe them the best of me. And the best of me isn’t working 50-60 hours per week chasing a buck. The best of me is not trying to beat the clock.
When did we decide that motherhood is such a miserable life choice?
Did you CHOOSE to have children? CHOOSE to adopt? Then why is it so bad to be known as their mother?
The Roller Derby moms on the Amazing Race spent the whole race telling us how they wanted their kids to be proud of them…until the end. Then they essentially flipped them their middle fingers and said “yeah, I don’t want to be remembered as a mom.”
What does it mean to “get your life back?” Isn’t this the life you chose when you decided to create a family? I am confused.
Even if you didn’t plan your pregnancy down to a science you still CHOSE to bring life into this world. Good on you. Now step up and let your kids know that you are happy to be “just their mom.”
I’m curious how many of you MOMs who “want their lives back” or don’t want to be “just a mom” would feel if your husbands said “I don’t want to be just so-and-so’s husband” or “I can’t wait to get my life back.” I don’t know about you but I would be hurt and upset. Think about the message you send to your kids every time you express those feelings. I know you probably don’t really mean those things and you would lay down your life for your kids, but why hurt them with your words.
I challenge you to revel in your motherhood today.
Happy Mother’s Day.